Please answer honestly…
1) Do you refuse to admit that at times you are stressed, frustrated, or exhausted?
2) Are you in denial of the impact of a particular disease or situation (ex. Alzheimer’s, stroke, learning disability, etc.) and its effects on your family?
3) Do you refuse to accept or seek help from others? Do you insist on doing everything on your own?
4) Do you so desparately want everything to be “ok” that you don’t even admit to yourself that it isn’t?
If you answered yes to one or more question above, you are likely facing some caregiver stress.
Keep in mind that denial is a defense mechanism, designed to keep us going instead of becoming overwhelmed and giving up. Plus, most of us don’t want to feel the pain of sadness, frustration, anger, or other “negative” emotions. So we push them away and pretend they are not there. Until our bodies or health tell us otherwise (ex. headaches, weight gain or loss, heart palpitations, fatigue, etc).
There is SO MUCH VALUE in admitting what you’re feeling! Caregiving can bring so many feelings–anger, sadness, grieving, hurt, disappointment, guilt, yet hopefully also moments of joy, gratitude, humor and blessings. You can deal with your feelings by journaling, meditating, praying, or sharing with trusted friends, caregiver support group, your Caregiver Wellness Coach Courtney, etc.
There is also so much value in admitting the impact of a situation on you and your entire family. Then, together you can begin to seek help where appropriate–from your own doctor, family, friends, neighbors, and various community resources.
Let’s bring these things out into the open. Denial keeps us stuck in pain, while shedding light on our feelings allows us to heal, take action where appropriate, and be healthy, balanced and energized.
Putting all denial aside and being completely honest with yourself, you are the best judge of the severity of your stress…and when it is time to seek professional help for yourself and/or assistance in caring for your loved one.
Stay tuned for 9 more Warning Signs of Caregiver Stress!!
Resource: 10 Symtoms of Caregiver Stress by the Alzheimer’s Association, adapted & interpreted by Courtney Long, MSW, LC, CHt
